"Not a single word."
Dr Rebecca Erikson, my professor, in her introduction of epistemology and challenging the main narrative
I hate how female characters aren’t allowed to be unattractively flawed. They can’t be smart-mouthed, quick-tempered, hypocritical, sarcastic, clingy, pushy, loud, or any number of things without getting hated for it and slapped with misogynist slurs. She’s a bitch, a slut, a whore, a skank, a cunt.
But get a male character with any of those traits and suddenly he’s omg so kawaii
I love how the whole “babies from bone marrow” thing is making people go “this makes men unnecessary” and men are getting so upset
it’s really fucking annoying to be deemed unnecessary and reduced to something like whether or not you can procreate
bluh bluh chuck’s an ass, i feel bad for liking him
I think this has been discussed to death, and I haven’t even read all the posts, so apologies for any redundancy. Just have a few thoughts about the (rightfully) controversial scene wherein Raleigh and Chuck have their fight while Mako watches. Re: what the film’s intent was versus what it actually communicated.
hey what if someone invented a machine that allowed women to transfer their pregnancies to men and then the government passed a law that if a woman didn’t want to have a baby the biological father was required to carry it how fast do you think birth control would stop being an issue
BEST NIGHTBLOG POST EVER
“IT’S UNETHICAL TO FORCE PEOPLE TO CARRY A BABY!!!!” MEN SHOUT
“NO FUCKING SHIT!!!!” WOMEN REPLY
Twitter vs Female Protagonists in Video Games
— Feminist Frequency (@femfreq)
Above is a tweet I made this afternoon in reaction to the fact that none of the games presented at Microsoft’s Xbox One E3 press conference featured female protagonists. Below are some of the Twitter replies to that observation which exemplify the male privilege and male entitlement endemic in the gaming community today. This is also a window into what it’s like to be a female video game critic on twitter.
Sexism is overrrrr
why does everything in fandoms have to revolve around ships
like does the plot bore you
are you that starving for romantic relationships
why can’t you just… you know storyline
I’m so tired of elitist bullshit like this.
For one, who decided that romance doesn’t count as plot? I’m tired of love stories getting ragged on like they’re somehow less than other genres. The denigration of love stories is mired in sexism.
Second, yes, some people are starved for romance. Humans are social creatures who want to love and be loved in return. Some of us don’t have the relationships we want or deserve.
Third, it’s rare to see well-written, interesting queer love stories media, especially as the main plot, and yes, I am “starving” for more. I deserve to see myself represented in media, and it’s rare that I do. Until I’m satisfied by the number and quality of canon queer love stories on my page/screen, I’m going to keep subverting the text and writing my own damn stories.
Fourth, stop being a judgmental asshole.
It’s good to see an academic opinion on this.
I think I’m a little biased against shipping culture, especially (ironically) queer shipping culture, because when I was growing up, I often saw queer fanfic used to fetishize queer relationships, like it was some sort of erotic joke to be giggled at during class, which always made me uncomfortable. (I didn’t really understand why it made me uncomfortable until quite recently. At the time, I felt like some of those stories were objectifying me and the way I felt, which was hard, especially when I wasn’t yet comfortable with my identity. And it made me feel like I couldn’t talk to people about it because queerness was all just a joke to them. That last part almost certainly isn’t true, but at the time I didn’t realize it.) Maybe I was misinterpreting what the purpose of those stories was. I was much younger at the time, and so was everyone I was surrounded by. In any case, I love the idea of using fanfic to write actual well-writen queer stories. I admit, if there’s one thing I don’t really know about all that much, it’s fanfic, and I shouldn’t presume to understand the driving force behind its creation and popularity.
Also, as a guy with almost zero hunger for romance, I sometimes feel like the stories I’m interested in are underrepresented in fandom culture, but I guess I should learn that it doesn’t matter, because fandom is trying to fill in the blanks that the cannon has left open.
As a slash fanfic reader with female bits who switches gender identity on any given day, the fic I read in HS not only helped me come to terms with myself but also brought me into contact with people who also celebrated these relationships, if only by the sheer fact that they’re telling these stories. That I can read a relationship where both characters might act more like I’d act or want to act instead of a relationship of how society tells me to behave; or at least even in the bad fic I can start processing the differences in the characters I read versus the characters I see and basically how that translates into… what I want. And the stories I want.
"I felt like some of those stories were objectifying me and the way I felt"
In a way, I feel bad that this is happening, but also realize: this is how women are taught by society to look at themselves. In some of the younger writers and rawer fic, you still have these things going on.
Because they’re only speaking the language they’ve been taught.
One of the on-going myths of fandom is that it’s mostly straight women; protip, new surveys are out that many of these slashers identify as some form of queer or of being outside mainstream, some fans only because they’ve gotten enough meta/safety from slash fandom that they were able to come to that realization, because there was nothing else in the environment to be able to give words to these feelings and these experiences. Because it’s hard to put words to something when you don’t have the language.
I’m one of these fans.